Whoever made up that rhyme about “sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me” was just plain wrong!
Words do hurt. They can break a person on the inside just as surely as a whack with a stick bruises the outside. People who are subjected to verbal abuse suffer. Verbal abuse is common in both sexes.
Abuse is improper or excessive use of priviledge. Verbal abuse is the excessive use of language to undermine someone’s dignity and security through insults and humiliation, in a sudden or repeated manner.
Most people don’t know how to talk. Not that they are dumb; it means their talking manners equals zero.
Some verbal abuse behaviors include:
* Calling you names.
* Yelling and screaming at you.
* Blaming your actions for their abusive or unhealthy behavior.
*Threatening to commit suicide to keep
you from breaking up with them.(Gosh! I hate this one)
*Threatening to harm you or people you care about.
*Threatening to expose your secrets.
*Starting rumors about you.
A relationship can be unhealthy or
abusive even without physical
violence. Verbal abuse may not cause
physical damage, but it does cause
emotional pain and scarring. It can
also lead to physical violence if the
relationship continues on the
unhealthy path it’s on.
When you’re in a relationship with an a verbally abusive person, you walk on eggshells.
Threats are designed to frighten us and verbally beat us into submission.
A verbal abuser rarely takes responsibility for his/her part of a problem.
Verbal abuse creates emotional pain
and mental anguish in its target.
Sometimes verbal abuse is so bad that
you actually start believing what your
You begin to think you’re stupid, ugly or fat. You agree that nobody else would ever want to be in a relationship with you.
Constantly being criticized and told you aren’t good enough causes you to lose confidence and lowers your self esteem.
Talk to someone you trust; a parent, friend or pastor about the situation and make a safety plan.